Addiction treatment is often a very turbulent and even painful period in a patient’s life, for reasons that may or may not be directly connected to their treatment. Often patients are driven to seek treatment by a traumatic event in their lives — the death of a loved one, the “intervention” of friends and family, or legal troubles that require them to get “clean”. This
is one reason why my office will recommend counseling to those who want it, since pure medical treatment of the disease sometimes leaves behind emotional and interpersonal issues in a patient’s life that should be addressed.
Every patient’s life is different, but one problem that I see many of my patients wrestling with a lack of self-esteem. If it seems odd that self-esteem should be an issue in addiction treatment, keep in mind that, no matter what kind of treatment is used, overcoming addiction is often a long and arduous process. Even with medication — the kind of treatment that causes the least physical suffering — an addiction patient often has to
adjust their life in major ways; whether it’s finding a new drug-free social circle or dealing with the effects their illness and treatment are having on friends and family, the challenges of addiction treatment can be ongoing and severe. Without some belief in their own strength and ability to cope, some patients can find it next to impossible.
Unlike removing their cravings for addictive drugs, this isn’t a problem I can easily solve for my patients. But it’s clear to me that something needs to be done to help give addiction patients more faith in their own ability to manage their health and cope with the hardships of treatment, they need to be empowered — the same sort of general encouragement that is often available for people recovering from other diseases, like cancer, or from major surgery. It is recognized in these areas of medicine that optimism and self-esteem are valuable tools in recovery, and they are encouraged by medical personnel and by friends and family. In addiction this, like so many other aspects of care, is largely ignored, and many treatment providers still try to shame patients out of their desire to use, which only makes things worse. A person suffering from addiction will most likely try to eliminate feelings of shame and guilt by relapsing to their drug of choice, not by pulling themselves up by their bootstraps to do a better job.
Building self-esteem and self-empowerment in this patient population is a complicated and delicate process. It is best accomplished after patient’s cravings and withdrawal symptoms have been treated with medications as the relief of these symptoms will at least give patient the ability to refrain from using. Expecting patients to refrain from using in the face of intolerable withdrawal symptoms will only expose them to another potential
failed attempt at changing their lives and will continue to pile on the shame, guilt, and feelings of helplessness and worthlessness. The current most commonly relayed message to those suffering from the disease of addiction by most treatments based on 12 step phiolosphy is still shame, guilt, and helplessness. These messages to those who are addicted must stop before we can make significant progress in treatment. As I’ve said a thousand times before, addicts are sick, not evil; and sick people deserve
treatment, not punishment.
As a physician, I sometimes find it difficult to walk the thin line between encouraging my patients to think positively about the future and giving them false hopes about what addiction treatment is currently capable of. I am also mostly powerless to help them with the consequences of bad decisions in their lives, and the patterns of bad decision-making that may have accumulated over the years of their addiction. Nonetheless, as people with a serious medical condition, addiction patients deserve the same encouragement that cancer patients routinely receive; that they are stronger than their illness, that they can beat their condition and return to their normal, healthy lives.